First date mistakes all girls make

So you've had a great first date with that cute guy who you really wouldn't mind seeing again? However, it's been three days and he still hasn't called you. On the fourth day you get panicky. Why hasn't he called? Have I done something wrong? But the date went perfectly well..."

Of course the date would have gone well. But had it been perfect, the guy would have called. It means only two things. One, you DID something(s) wrong on your first date and that guy's never back. Two, it is not the end of the world!

So for all the Cinderellas out there who're wondering if all there dates would end with the "first", fret not! Here's what you could have done wrong, and here's how to avoid making those mistakes again.

What not to wear: What will you be wearing tonight when he takes you out for dinner the first time? The delicious black number or that oh-so-hot mini? But wait. Are you sure he's taking you out for dinner and not dancing? If he did not mention, a good idea is to call and find out. The first date is not the right time to be wrongly attired.

As for the backless, legless, knee-less dresses — in short anything that has the slightest possibility of making you look tartish — even if you look a bomb in them, please leave them in the closet! If you insist on dressing tartish, you will end up being treated as one. And there definitely will be no phone calls.

Know your mind: An intelligent woman always knows her mind, and most (intelligent) men like intelligent women. An intelligent woman will also not let the man take her for granted. Let him know you're a 21st century girl without pushing the independent streak too far and coming across as an aggressive femme fatality!

If he asks you to pick where you'd want to go, please don't answer with a "Wherever you want to go!" Tell him precisely where you want to be (do have it thought out!) and what you want to do.

Once the night is out and it's time to pay the bill, make sure he knows you are okay with splitting. If he insists otherwise, let him take care of the bill. That way you've shown you are independent and yet you've let him be Sir Knight.

Be the mysterious girl: A woman who has an air of mystery around herself always leaves a man intrigued and wanting to know more. Let him do the talking, you can do the leading bit by asking the right questions. Nod, hum, haw, smile, tilt — anything that tells him you're all ears, every now and then. And please, do not ask him very personal questions. Save the asking about the salary bit and his views on pre-nuptials for the seventh date (if at all). Asking about those on the first date is simply a way of really scaring the boy. Similarly, no man wants to know how many men you've dated before him or how much your job sucks. Stick to common interests like music, books and pets. Save the best (or the worst) for the last.

There's a difference between easy and easy going: Remember this Golden Rule: No sex on the first date. Period. Let's face some honest facts here. Most men will happily oblige if all you are looking for is a one-night stand. If the man is a keeper however, make sure he wants more from you than just sex. And the best way to do that is by reining in your hormones for at least two other dates (if not for holy matrimony).

It is important for a woman to maintain a certain amount of personal space to command a man's respect. Men (most of them) always love discussing their conquests and especially if he thinks that a woman is too easy to get.

You REALLY don't have to impress: Okay so we've all heard that first impressions are the last impressions. However, that does not mean that you have to go lying about yourself just to impress the guy! Stick to who you are, be who you are for your own sake, have fun! No man wants to be with a woman who gives out signals that she'd rather be somewhere else.

What's the whole point of dating if you don't have fun, right? Do not over do the Miss goody-two-shoe bit either. A little flirting won't get you labelled a tart and neither will it slot you as Miss Frigid.

And before you begin counting the days to when he'll call again, do remember one thing. You are NOT obliged to go on a second date with the guy if you don't like him. Women can be choosy too you know.